THIS IS WHY I AM YELLING

Reclaiming sexuality

femaletroublee:

This is something that’s been on my mind lately. I’ve always been bothered by the way liberal / white / sex-postive feminism seems to revolve around exhibitionism of body and sex life. Specifically, I don’t like the way LOVING sex is portrayed as this ultimate feminist act because it shows how liberated and unashamed of sex you are. I get it! You’re giving the patriarchy the finger every time you dress sexy or talk about your orgasms, but you’re at the shallow end of the pool if you think that’s all there is to it.

Some things that need to be discussed:

• male sexual entitlement and aggression 
• sex is not empowering for everyone
• sex work is not empowering for everyone
• talking about sex is not empowering for everyone
• reclaiming sexuality is different for everyone 

This list could probably be longer…

The last thing I want to say is that my sexuality and body have been subjected to harassment and trespassing. I reclaim both of those things by being private about them and telling people who ask me intrusive questions about either that it’s none of their damn business. Let ‘em think I’m a prude and sexually-repressed - really don’t care. We should be focusing on more important things than making sure feminism is sexy enough.

so much this really clarifed some things for me about sex positivity vs. “empowerment washing”

(Source: backlash-blues)